TMI Tuesday - Early, Early, Early January 29, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : TMI Tuesday , add a comment1. Would you stay in a relationship with an physically unfaithful partner?
Nope - if they can’t communicate enough to tell me there is a problem then I don’t want to be with then I likely don’t want to be with them.
2. Would you stay in a relationship with an emotionally unfaithful partner?
Only if they came to me and told me what was going on and showed me that they genuinely wanted to stop the other relationship and fix what ever might be the problem with ours.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how important is the recognition of birthdays to you (your’s, a friend’s, a partner’s)?
For me it’s like a 3. I didn’t celebrate birthdays growing up and they don’t mean much to me. Which means I have to put in a serious amount of effort to even remember people’s birthdays and even more effort to do something about it.
4. When you have a “toe-curling” orgasm, do your does curl up, or down?
Down - I think. Now I’m going to be thinking of that next time I come! LOL
5. Every one has a pet peeve, tell me one of yours.
Drama Queen’s - ohmigod - I hate it when people - especially women - make a huge big fuss out of every single little thing and act like it’s the worst possible thing that could happen to them. Unless some is dead or in the hospital get over it, do something about it, or move on. Unless, you’re my best friend or spouse, then you can make a big deal out of it for awhile but I hate seeing that in other. Especially people I work with.
Bonus (as in optional):Name someone famous who you have no sexual interest in but would have sex with just to brag about it?
Really, no one. If they don’t turn me on I’m not going there no matter who they are.
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Insulted January 27, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Ramblings , add a commentI am so insulted. I posted a story at this site called Lush Stories because I thought that it would be a good way to promote Inky Blue Allusions. It came up first - or very close to the top anyway - in a search for erotic stories and it has a nice design and I generally liked the site so I figured what the heck right? So, I posted the first of the Office Masturbation series. And someone actually commented that the story was very similar to a story they’d seen on the site.
I really think that before people accuse someone of plaigerism they need to put a little thought into it. I mean that could put doubts into other people’s minds and that really freaks me out. And then of course, it makes me worry that someone else has posted my story and is claiming it as their own. I mean, it’s not like that is a rare occurance on the net right?
So, ya, I’m really freaked out and insulted and … well, I’m sure you know!
High Five Fridays #2 January 26, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Link Love , add a commentTime for another High Five Friday!
Here are the top five bloggers I’m loving this week:
1. Rori at Between My Sheets for her honest thoughts on becoming a slave for the first time. Other slaves, she’d love to hear your thoughts.
2. Sugasm for keeping us up to date with what is going on in the blogging world and highlight some great writers.
3. Birds are Smart for this sexy story called Table Top.
4. Blissful Desires for sharing part of her sexual journey with such feeling and frankness.
5. Gracie at The Marketing Whore who always has something new and interesting to read for anyone who wants to market a product or a service and is just good read all around. And of course for starting High Five Fridays!
Find out how to give your High-Five Fridays here!
The purpose of this meme is to give high-fives to 5 people, posts, blogs and/or websites you’ve admired during the week. I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 5 high-fives on Friday. Trackbacks, pings, linky widgets, comment links accepted!
Visiting fellow High-Fivers is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your High-Fives in others comments (please note if NWS).
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Sexy Is In Your Mind January 26, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentCan you be sexy and overweight? Can you be sexy and differently abled? Can you be sexy and mature (i.e. “old”)? These are questions that women - and yes, men, too - ask themselves everyday. The sad thing is that when it comes right down to it the answer we often give ourselves is “no”. It’s hard not to come up with that answer in the society that we live in.
In our world we look around and the sex gods and goddess are beautiful, almost perfect it seems. I guess it’s hard not to look that way when they have make up artists, hair stylists, and fitness gurus at their beck in call to get them ready any time they have to make a public performance. And if they aren’t available they have to stay out of the lime light otherwise the result is often that of Jennifer Love Hewitt, who experienced the cruelty of the media. Now, I’m not a big fan of hers (I actually mostly have thought she was too skinny!) but I feel for the girl. We all know that she is not fat and she knows she is not fat but did either of those facts prevent the media from making a big to do out of it and from every celebrity blogger putting that picture up for intense scrutiny? Of course not. So, sexy celebs have to be careful that when they go out in public they are ready for it.
But, the bottom line is that we are not celebrities. We don’t have make up artists, hairstylists, and fitness gurus available whenever we need to go to the office party, the get together for drinks in the trendy part of town, or even to work. We have to work with what we’ve got. And we have to love what we’ve got.
When you can stop caring what you do you don’t have you can be sexy no matter what you look like. Sexy is an attitude and really all in your mind. I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on it - do whatever it takes to make you feel sensual, alluring, and attractive. Use your makeup, your push up bras, or that new Boston Red Sox t-shirt that fits just right and highlights the blue in your eyes. And know that it doesn’t really matter what others think but rather what you think of yourself. Because if you like yourself, if you’re confident, if you’re not hiding in a corner and can hold a decent conversation - people will be attracted to you.
Have you ever noticed that people are more attractive when they are in love and with someone that loves them? That’s because they feel sexier and they are more confident in themselves. The trick is to find that feeling without depending on someone else. How can you do that? Try a few of these things:
~ Find something you are good at and do it often. It could be a sport, a hobby, teaching other people thing, a volunteer activity, working with children, writing - pretty much anything that makes you feel good about yourself. The high you get when you’ve done this activity will make you feel good about yourself and will be obvious to others.
~ When you’re feeling not-so-hot about yourself put on your favorite outfit, even if you don’t really feel like wearing it. Wear that sweater that people always tell you makes your eyes pop or wear those red heels that make you feel like a superstar.
~ Smile. Really. Even if you don’t feel like smiling if you do it often enough you’ll start feeling great.
~ Compliment someone else - sincerely. Making others feel good makes you feel good.
~ Flirt with someone. Your hubby, the bus driver, the clerk behind the counter. Mild flirting is usually returned with a smile and when someone smiles at you, you have to smile back.
~ Take 5 minutes to relive a sexy memory. Feel the satin of your lingerie on your skin. Remember the scent of the incense that was burning. Feel someone’s touch. Get really into it for 5 minutes and I can almost gaurentee that after that you’ll feel different and people will react to you differently.
Sexy is all in your mind and just because you aren’t feeling it right now doesn’t mean you can’t be feeling great about yourself - or at least better - if you put some effort into it.
A High Five Friday (ya, I know it’s Sunday morning!) January 20, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Link Love , add a comment1. Ask Uncle Terry - for his great new forum with articles and lots of good conversation about sex! Join us and get talking!
2. Netpond - for being a great place for adult webmasters to talk about making money, blogging, and just to learn (there is so much to learn!)
3. Slip of a Girl - for keeping us up to date on all things lingerie related and for inspiring our love of lingerie
4. The Erotic Woman - for the great stories and their fabulous new re-design.
5. Deliciously Naughty - for being so open, honest, and revealing!
Find out how to give your High-Five Fridays here!
The purpose of this meme is to give high-fives to 5 people, posts, blogs and/or websites you’ve admired during the week. I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 5 high-fives on Friday. Trackbacks, pings, linky widgets, comment links accepted!
Visiting fellow High-Fivers is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your High-Fives in others comments (please note if NWS).
Find more High-Five Friday folks here!
Humor, Rain, and the 5 Month Rule January 10, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : TMI Tuesday , add a commentWelcome to another TMI Tuesday (is it just me or did I just do one of these?)
1) Do you have/ever had any dating or sex superstitions? (Wear ‘lucky jeans’ on first date, always light a vanilla candle, etc.) If so, what are they?
Oh ya - I have a big one: The 5 Month Rule. Whenever I’d been dating someone for 5 months I would stop and analyze how I was feeling about the relationship, how things were going, etc. If I didn’t immediately think, “Ya, I still want to be with this person,” I knew it was over and I would end it as nicely as possible. There have only been two times in my life that I went past 5 months. Once was with the father of my children. Unfortunately, I second guessed myself and pushed the little nagging concerns to the back of my head. I likely shouldn’t have but if I hadn’t I wouldn’t have my kids. The second time was with my husband and at 5 months I didn’t have any doubts, nor do I now (almost 2 years).
2) If you were stranded on the old deserted island, and a genie appeared who could only grant you one wish — to bring one of the following people to join you, who would it be?
- your spouse/significant other
- an unrequited love or some person you’ve had a crush on
- an old/past love
- your best friend
Definately my husband. He’s one of the few people that always makes me feel good about myself. We talk, we laugh, we have great sex. What more could you possibly want?
3) Tell us “weather or not” you’re in the mood — how does rain, snow, sleet, scorching heat, sweltering humidity etc. affect your libido.
The only weather that puts me in the mood is rain. I love the sound of it, the smell, the feel. Especially summer rain after its been hotter than hell outside for days on end!
4) Are you a crying drunk, an angry drunk, a ‘I’m drunk, let’s screw’ sort of a drinker? (And, if you do not drink — which one of those things is the reason?)
I’ve been all of the above at some point or another. It all depends on the company I’m keeping I think. I cry with girlfriends, I get angry rarely, and I wanna screw my brains out if I’m with someone that turns me on.
5) Who turns you on the most & why:
the activist
the author
the care-giver/healer (nurse, doctor, masseuse, herbalist, chiropractor etc.)
the comedian
the educator (professor, teacher, mentor etc.)
the model
the musician
the politician
the scientist
Definately the comedian. I love people that make me laugh and I think laughter is a great aphrodisiac!
Bonus (as in optional): Looking back, what’s the one thing you’ve done which was supposed to be erotic, but didn’t quite work out?
Sorry, can’t think of anything.
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TMI - so I’m late, what else is new? January 7, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : TMI Tuesday , add a commentBecause I have no ideas of what to write I’m doing last week’s TMI.
1. Last week was “The Most Wonderful time of the Year”, but what are your favorite 2007 memories?
Getting married of course! I got married May 27/07 to the most wonderful man.
2. What is the best thing you learned in 2007?
Hmmm - don’t put all your money in one basket.
3. On a scale of 1-10, how good was your 2007?
7 - could have been better but it sure ended well.
4. What is your wish for 2008? What is your wish for someone else for 2008?
I wish for all my blogs to start making money and I wish my husband better health.
5. If you knew that you were going to die in 2008 what one thing would you do?
Quit my job and spend the rest of the year doing what I want.
Bonus (as in optional):Do you make New Year’s resolutions? What is/are your’s for 2008?
Nope - don’t like to set myself up for failure.
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This may be a little late but I’m sure the ladies will enjoy it anyway! Happy New Year everyone!
Ever Have One of Those Days? January 6, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Ramblings , add a commentEver have one of those days when you get so tired of looking at pussies, cocks, and asses that you don’t think you can do it anymore? Or in my case, writing about it. I originally started Inky Blue Allusions because writing erotica was fun. And when I get a chance to write it for myself it still is fun. But the money is in my text providing - Torrid Text Content - and I find it is really easy to get new work and once a client likes your work they just keep giving you more. Yes, that’s a good thing. But remember, I still work a day job so that means my evening and weekends are filled with writing porn text. I can’t say I hate it but I think I’m burning out. Maybe I need to take a holiday. LOL - I wish.
So I’m having one of those days when I’d love to just ignore everything and everybody for awhile. And I’m feeling that way much too often these days.
I need a nap.
