TMI Tuesday First Experiences - First Love Poem October 30, 2008
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1. Who and when was your first crush?
I was 12, he was 14 and he was my first bad boy. He came roaring up to my house with his 18 year old buddy on a motorcycle and took me for my first motorcylce ride. He was blonde and wore a worn motorcycle jacket and smoked and drank beer. And I was so into him. He had beautiful blue eyes and my parents wouldn’t let me go out with him on unsupervised dates. In otherwords, no hanky panky. 
Likely a good thing. He inspired my first love poem. Let’s see if I can remember it…
My very first crush
seems so long ago
I was really in love -
at least I thought so
I saw you at most
once a week.
I wanted to talk to you
but I was just too meek.
Finally,
we got together.
With my heart on my sleeve,
I felt light as a feather.
I can’t remember how it ends now - something to do with is mom breaking us up because we were both too young.
2. Who and when was your first date?
We never really dated when I was younger. We hung out. We went to movies. A lot of group stuff. I do remember when I was 13, on my birthday, my parents took me and the above mentioned first crust to see “Return of the Jedi”. I’m not sure if that counts or not? After that, my first one on one date was likely this guy I had a long distance relationship with. He was a real gem. Emotionally unstable, but a really nice guy. Blonde hair, blue eyes (again). Actually, he looked like a blonde Tom Cruise. I can’t see Tom Cruise without thinking of this guy. Treated me like a queen. Took me out for expensive dinners, bought me jewelry, sent me flowers. Hell, he even bought things for my mom and my sister. Big spender. Big breakdown, too. After we broke up (the $500 watch he bought me as an promise gift just after I turned 18 scared the shit out of me) he tried to commit suicide.
3. Who and when was your first kiss?
My first kiss was also my first younger man. I was 16, he was 15. Another bad boy. We’re still friends on facebook.
4. Who and when was your first partner while “fooling around” in car?
A guy I went out with in my early twenties. The one that broke my heart. The one I couldn’t forget about for three years. Man, he put me through the ringer. Like a young Jim Morrison. And of course, a bad boy. Jeez - I just couldn’t get enough of them could I? He made me feel passion and lust for the first time. And we’re friends on facebook as well!
5. Who and when was your first partner while “fooling around” in a house?
Same as above.
6. Who and when was your first love?
Grade 10. Blonde hair and blue eyes again. Gee - never noticed that pattern before. And yes, a bad boy. We danced to “Faithfully” by Foreigner and something by Cool and the Gang. I wrote a kazillion love poems about him. He had a twin brother and I was one of the few that could tell them apart. He’s not on facebook.
Bonus: Who’s blog did you first comment on?
I can’t remember for sure but it had to be One Fat Bitchypoo - Robyn is one of the funniest ladies I’ve ever read and she swears a lot. Google her. You’ll love her. And she’s not fat anymore. Now she’s one skinny bitchypoo!
And just as a post note: My husband is neither blonde nor a badboy but he does have blue eyes and he is on my facebook and he is the best of my firsts - because we’ve had some really good firsts together. Like my first trip to Ontario, my first nice guy (and I like the nice guys better than the bad boys any day), and my first forever.
A Really Late TMI Tuesday October 27, 2008
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1. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed after a sexual experience?
Yes - during my big drinking days I often had sex because it was easier to have sex than not to. That doesn’t leave you with a really good feeling inside the next day
2. Did you ever own a fake ID?
No - when I would have needed it I was a good religious girl. I never would have thought of trying to sneak into a bar at that age.
3. How often do you tell white lies? Is it with or without thinking?
On occassion. And usually know I’m going to ahead of time. Rarely ever to people I love. Usually when I don’t want to get into details with someone that is being pushy about my life.
4. On a scale of 1-10, how well do you receive constructive criticism?
6 - I tend to take most criticism very personally.
5. Have you ever shaved your pubic hair?
Yes - partially and in whole. It depends on my mood.
Bonus: What percentage of women do you think are capable of handling being in a “friends with benefits” relationship? How about men?
About 30% of women and about 80% of men. Women are socialized to believe that sex has to mean something.
Babe Blogs October 26, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Link Love , add a commentDo you love to look at pictures of beatiful babes? Nude babes? Then you should check out the Babe Blog Carnival. It is one of my new projects and just getting off the ground but I’m hoping to have new blogs for you to enjoy at least every other week - every week once it gets hopping!
If you have a babe blog of your own where you feature beatiful nude babes then submit a post!
Checkout the Babe Blog Carnival here!
Do You Date Online? October 18, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Relationships , add a commentOnline dating is by no means something new - it’s been around since the early 2000’s - but it has certainly evolved and people have gotten smarter about it. Well, some people have gotten smarter about it. Have you?
I think for those of us that have been single at some point since 2000 online dating has been something we’ve at least tried - even if we haven’t been successful. I think some of you know that I met my husband so it does work for some people. But if you’re going to date online there are things that you should consider.
Be aware that while you might be able to get to know someone in a way that you often don’t get to in real life (people will often reveal things about themselves online that they wouldn’t reveal in person) you don’t get to see them in social situations. The social aspect of dating can be very important because you get to see how a person reacts to other people, situations, and realities. By the time you meet up with the person you’ve been chatting with you may have developed an attachment and overlook things that you normally wouldn’t accept when you do get out into the real world with them.
Be cautious of people that want your email, phone number or pictures right away. They likely aren’t there just for dating. If they are very insistent on getting personal information right away, then you might want to reconsider continuing an online relationship with them. Unless, of course you are online just to hook up. And that brings about an entirely different set of warnings that is for a different post.
Know that some people are not there for dating at all but are there to scam people. If anyone brings up a “business opportunity” or “a little loan” - run for the hills! These people are out there and yes, they do get people when they are expecting it. Even if you have been chatting with them for awhile and have started to trust them, that doesn’t mean they can’t be a scammer.
Finally, trust your instincts. But don’t trust your heart. Especially if you have been looking for Mr. or Ms. Right for quite a long time it can be easy to put aside your instincts and really want to believe that “this is it!” Pay attention, look at the little things, and if they seem off to you, then listen to what your gut tells you.
TMI Tuesday October 14, 2008
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It’s been a long time since I’ve participated in TMI Tuesday. This is a fun one! 
1. What do you do that sends a clear signal to your partner that you’re interested in an intimate evening?
Ok, this is a little strange I think but I put my arms over or behind my head. It is a clear signal to him that my breasts are “up for grabs” so to speak. He knows this and always takes the hint!
2. How important is foreplay to an exciting evening?
Very. We both love to make foreplay last. Touching, kissing, breast play and all sorts of fun stuff. Tickling, too! He’s very ticklish!
3. What is the first thing you do during foreplay or what is the first thing you like done to you?
Breast play. I could let him play all night long!
4. Are you a one and done kind of partner (20 minutes or so) or do you like intimacy sessions longer than 60 minutes?
Including foreplay? It could go on forever. I could do with a quickie once in awhile.
BONUS: If you are interested in sex with a same-sex partner, what would be the first thing you’d like to touch on that other person, and why? (For those already in same sex relationships…what was the first thing you touched, or if you were interested in a relationship with the opposite sex, what would be the first thing you touched?)
I love women’s breasts. How could anyone not. I’d have a lot of fun and I would take my time!
Do you like to share? October 14, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Ramblings , add a commentI thought this video was so cute. Why don’t we get sexy commercials like that in Canada?
Stay Still Dammit! October 14, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentOk guys - you know how you’re always wanting you women to be more active in bed? Well, when she tries to - let her! I speaking specifically about when she gets on top. She’s up there doing her thing and then you start moving, trying to get in sync with her and then the rythm is gone. Where’d it go? Most people can’t keep the same rythm for long so let her do what feels good. Let her slide around, up and down, maybe get a little bit of grinding in there. Don’t try to go faster. Don’t try to get deeper. Just let her run the show for a bit. You’ll get your turn soon enough!
Seriously - just stay still dammit!
