Sexy Video April 14, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentHi all,
Sorry I haven’t been around much lately. My text writing service has been rocking and I’ve had so much work that I don’t have a lot of time for myself anymore. It’s good because it means more people are hearing (reading) my name.
I don’t have a real post for you today but enjoy this little video clip I found on youtube!
Sexy Is In Your Mind January 26, 2008
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentCan you be sexy and overweight? Can you be sexy and differently abled? Can you be sexy and mature (i.e. “old”)? These are questions that women - and yes, men, too - ask themselves everyday. The sad thing is that when it comes right down to it the answer we often give ourselves is “no”. It’s hard not to come up with that answer in the society that we live in.
In our world we look around and the sex gods and goddess are beautiful, almost perfect it seems. I guess it’s hard not to look that way when they have make up artists, hair stylists, and fitness gurus at their beck in call to get them ready any time they have to make a public performance. And if they aren’t available they have to stay out of the lime light otherwise the result is often that of Jennifer Love Hewitt, who experienced the cruelty of the media. Now, I’m not a big fan of hers (I actually mostly have thought she was too skinny!) but I feel for the girl. We all know that she is not fat and she knows she is not fat but did either of those facts prevent the media from making a big to do out of it and from every celebrity blogger putting that picture up for intense scrutiny? Of course not. So, sexy celebs have to be careful that when they go out in public they are ready for it.
But, the bottom line is that we are not celebrities. We don’t have make up artists, hairstylists, and fitness gurus available whenever we need to go to the office party, the get together for drinks in the trendy part of town, or even to work. We have to work with what we’ve got. And we have to love what we’ve got.
When you can stop caring what you do you don’t have you can be sexy no matter what you look like. Sexy is an attitude and really all in your mind. I’m not saying you shouldn’t work on it - do whatever it takes to make you feel sensual, alluring, and attractive. Use your makeup, your push up bras, or that new Boston Red Sox t-shirt that fits just right and highlights the blue in your eyes. And know that it doesn’t really matter what others think but rather what you think of yourself. Because if you like yourself, if you’re confident, if you’re not hiding in a corner and can hold a decent conversation - people will be attracted to you.
Have you ever noticed that people are more attractive when they are in love and with someone that loves them? That’s because they feel sexier and they are more confident in themselves. The trick is to find that feeling without depending on someone else. How can you do that? Try a few of these things:
~ Find something you are good at and do it often. It could be a sport, a hobby, teaching other people thing, a volunteer activity, working with children, writing - pretty much anything that makes you feel good about yourself. The high you get when you’ve done this activity will make you feel good about yourself and will be obvious to others.
~ When you’re feeling not-so-hot about yourself put on your favorite outfit, even if you don’t really feel like wearing it. Wear that sweater that people always tell you makes your eyes pop or wear those red heels that make you feel like a superstar.
~ Smile. Really. Even if you don’t feel like smiling if you do it often enough you’ll start feeling great.
~ Compliment someone else - sincerely. Making others feel good makes you feel good.
~ Flirt with someone. Your hubby, the bus driver, the clerk behind the counter. Mild flirting is usually returned with a smile and when someone smiles at you, you have to smile back.
~ Take 5 minutes to relive a sexy memory. Feel the satin of your lingerie on your skin. Remember the scent of the incense that was burning. Feel someone’s touch. Get really into it for 5 minutes and I can almost gaurentee that after that you’ll feel different and people will react to you differently.
Sexy is all in your mind and just because you aren’t feeling it right now doesn’t mean you can’t be feeling great about yourself - or at least better - if you put some effort into it.
Sexy Lingerie December 31, 2007
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentI love lingerie whether I’m wearing it for my partner or wearing it for myself. Yes, sometimes I like to wear it just for me. There’s just something that is so confidence boosting about having a nice long hot bubble bath and then getting out and dusting your body with a sweet smelling talcum powder. Then, topping it all off with a nice piece of lingerie. I love this one and I’m thinking it might be nice Valentine’s Day gift to myself. Hmmmm….
Toys Are NOT Addictive - Now Give Me My Bullet Back! November 30, 2007
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentPeople have a lot of misconceptions about sex toys. Some people think they will make you even hornier and lead you into all sort of sexual deviancies (thus the ridiculous laws that have been passed in some U.S. States). Some think they will make you immune to other “real” sexual activity. Yet other believe that sex toys can be addictive. Hmmm. What do you think?
This article gave some interesting insight into the subject. Check out this article:
Can I Become Addicted to my Vibrator?
TMI Tuesday #106 October 24, 2007
Posted by autumnseave in : Link Love, Sex and Sexuality , add a comment1. What are your 7 favorite tactile things that turn you on? Sex (like oral, or penetrative) cannot be an answer. (Examples: silk, light tickling, etc).
~ leather
~ water (like lakes and rivers)
~ rain
~ feather boas
~ satin
~ hair
~ silk
2. What are your non-genital errogenous zones and what do you like done to them?
My back - I love to have it scratched or tickled. When I get my back scratched I like it hard and my husband always thinks he’s going to hurt me. But I could have my back tickled for hours and never have enough.
3. What sounds get you sexually charged?
The sound of rain - better yet, a thunderstorm!
4. After losing your virginity, what is the longest you’ve gone without penetrative sex?
About a year and a half to two years. And that was right after losing my virginity because it was a horrible experience with a chauvinistic pig who wouldn’t take no for an answer.
5. What is your least favorite sexual position? Why don’t you like it?
69 - it just does nothing for me. I’d rather concentrate fully on my partner or have him concentrate fully on me. I’m not great at multi-tasking so I guess threesomes might not be a great thing for me hey? Unless of course they are both focused on me…
Bonus (as in optional):If you could sexually dominate or submit to 5 people - any 5, currently living or deceased - which 5 would it be?
Dominate:
~ Britney Spears
~ Drew Barrymoore
Submit to:
~ Storm Large
~ Angelina Jolie
~ Manny Ramirez
(I had to throw one guy in there!)
If you want to participate in TMI Tuesdays check it out and leave a comment on her blog!
Touch Me Babe October 23, 2007
Posted by autumnseave in : Contest, Sex and Sexuality, Relationships , 2commentsThe first person to send an email to inkyblueallusions @ inkyblueallusions.net and tell me who sang that song, the title, and the name of the album it was on will be the winner of a free e-book of my choice!
This contest has been won (yes, already) by Selena! Congrats girl!
There is something that is just so erotic about touch. Lots of people forget to slow down and just enjoy touching each other. The slow gentle caress of a lover’s hand as it moves over your body is so sensuous. It helps you to feel connected to each other and it prevents walls from building between you.
Sometimes touching someone can discover ticklish zones but that’s not a bad thing. Tickling is very sensuous and erotic as well. A light tickling wakes up the nerve endings which make you more prone to becoming aroused. This tends to be very true in women especially, but lots of guys like it, too. A light tickling along often forgotten erogenous zones like the back, the thighs, the arms, or the stomache can make you feel alive and alert like you’ve never felt before. Personally, I love, love, love to have my back tickled whether it is as a form of foreplay or just for fun.
Here’s a little game for couples to play:
Spend some time together the next time you are alone and see who caves first. Run your fingers up the inner curve of her waist, around the swell of her breast (don’t touch her nipples yet though), past her armpit, and then down her arm. Let your palm caress her face and then work your way back down again. Go all the way down to the tips of her toes. You’ll soon have her squirming in your arms. Girls, try this on your guy, too. You might have to tie him up first but what the hell right?
Touching is one of the most intimate things you can do. Even if you don’t have time or energy to make love or get into a raunchy sex session, touching each other in a sincere and meaningful way is a great way to show your partner how much you care and help them relax at the same time. It reminds them that no matter what they are going through they have someone beside them that supports them and will be with them through the whole thing is - whatever it might be.
And guys, if your lady doesn’t seem so “in the mood” lately, try this on her but don’t let it turn into sex. She might want it to but make it clear that you want her to “get a good night’s rest and just relax.” It’s not about you, it’s about her. Do this 3 or so times during a week and it will be almost a sure thing that on the weekend when the kids get to bed she’ll be almost ready to jump you!
Telling Stories October 4, 2007
Posted by admin in : Sex and Sexuality, Relationships , add a commentMy fiance likes it when I tell him stories. Not necessarily stories that I’ve written (although he likes those, too) but just fantasies, stories of my past, or stories of things to come.
I like to tell him about Peaches because he loves it and it gets him so hard. What guy doesn’t love having his fantasies indulged. Will I ever fulfill his girl/girl fantasies. Maybe. But until then, he gets lots of stories.
He’ll start by asking me, “Tell me about Peaches and you.”
“What do you want to know? About how she loves kissing? She does. She could kiss me for hours. She’d run the tip of her tongue over my lips and then her tongue would dart inside my mouth and she’d kiss me passionately. Long wet kisses that lasted forever.”
He’d still be just listening intently.
“And my breasts. God, she couldn’t keep her hands off them. Sometimes she’d come up behind me at work for a quick fondle when no one was looking. And sometimes when someone was looking. She was such a tease. But when we were alone…”
And he’d reach out and slip his hand under my shirt an start rubbing my nipple.
“When we were alone she couldn’t resist touching them. She’d cup them both in her hands and rub her thumbs over the nipples until they were nice and hard. And then she’d reach out with that pretty pink tongue…she’d circle around the tips until I was moaning and then she’d take it in her mouth and suck. And I used to watch her because I loved the look of the paleness of my breast against her red lips. She’d happily sit there sucking my breasts, pinching the nipples and playing with me until my pussy was aching for her to touch me.”
By that point he’d be sucking at my nipples, too. And his hand would slide into my panties where he’d find me very wet.
“Then when I’d finally beg her to touch me, she’d slide her fingers between my legs and rub my clit. She’d pull it between her thumb and finger and then she’d slip her fingers right inside me. She’d fuck me nice and slow with her fingers as her thumb rubbed against my clit. And she’d keep doing that and sucking my tits until I was grinding my pussy against her hand and moaning….yes, yes, yes…”
And now those yes’s would be for him because he’d be between my legs with his wonderful tongue, making me writhe in pleasure.
Usually I don’t get to finish the story because we get a little distracted. Maybe someday he’ll get to see how the story ends.
The Oral Pleasure of Giving July 27, 2006
Posted by autumnseave in : Sex and Sexuality , add a commentYou know, I’d never really been a vixen or a sexual goddess. Not in my younger days anyway. All I knew was that I liked having orgasms. When I discovered my own orgasm that was all I could think about at first. I didn’t care how long it lasted (lucky for my ex!) or what all happened as long as I came.
It wasn’t until much later that I learned that there was so much much more than just the orgasm. And one of the things that came along with that learning was discovering how much fun it was to orally please someone else! Not that I didn’t try before - I just didn’t have much fun with it.
One day it just clicked. I was with someone new, but someone I really cared about. We’d known each other in high school and gotten to know each other again as adults. The first time I was with him and I went down on him it just clicked. This is fun. He moaned, he groaned, he ran his fingers through my hair. When I continued with one action for more than 30 seconds his cock would twitch in my mouth. When I paid special attention to the rim around his head he clutch the sheets in his fist. And when I licked his balls? He’d go crazy and beg me to let him fuck me.
After that I realized that it was just a matter of letting go. Enjoying, playing, having fun with it. And yes, a little bit about power too. It was an exhilarating feeling to know that I held the answer to his needs in my hand - and in my mouth and in my tongue! Since then, I’ve learned that exploration is good. Playing is good. Experimentation is good. And if you’re having fun, I can pretty much gaurentee that he is too
